Confidence plays a very important role during dating. Women like to date those men who are good looking, smart in their behavior, and who exude confidence. Therefore, unless you have confidence in yourself, and are at complete ease with yourself, you should not go out on a date; if it fails it will leave you with an even more wounded self-esteem. Mentioned below are 5 effective tips to help you maintain confidence in yourself during dating.
1. Stay natural: Project yourself the way you are and do not go overboard, trying to be someone, or do something, which is uncharacteristic of you. Act and behave normally like you would behave when you are around with your family or friends. This is very important, because if you try to project an over exaggerated image of goodness and niceness, then it may all seem to be very fake to yourself and you may not be able to carry on with the act for too long. The worst repercussion of projecting an unreal image of yourself is that you start losing confidence in yourself, and eventually, the ‘real you’ surfaces, which your partner may find to be a stranger and cannot relate with.
2. Avoid over-possessiveness: When you are on a date, you should not treat your partner as your possession. Remember, your partner is an individual entity, with her own unique personality and thought process. You should not try to overshadow your partner’s perspective, nor should you act too desperate and over-possessive. Your over-possessiveness can kill a budding relationship. So, treat your partner with respect and dignity. Give her adequate breathing space and trust her.
3. Remain relaxed: It is very important for you to appear relaxed and calm. Do not remain tensed or demonstrate nervousness as it will only project a very negative image of yours and show that you have no confidence in yourself. Look into her eyes while speaking with your partner and look for hints of expressions in her eyes. Maintain a casual posture, and wear a natural smile on your face. Allow normal expressions to appear on your face and try to maintain a normal body language. Highly demonstrative body language and exaggerated expressions should not be used, as it can make the whole thing appear very dramatic and rehearsed.
4. Use a compelling tone: Whenever we speak, there are three things that can happen – either our voice gets lost in the noise of the crowd, or it reaches the audience (because your voice has a high decibel) or it just reaches the person, who we want, should hear us. A low voice only shows that you have no confidence in yourself. Therefore, when on a date, you should use a moderate voice, so that what you say is audible enough only to your partner. Use a compelling tone, full of expressions as this reflects your confidence in yourself. Be assertive and persuasive while you speak. Blabbering as well as excessive talkativeness can have negative impacts on your partner. So, talk only as much as is required. Pick your words carefully and speak out only well-thought sentences.
5. Stay focused: While on a date, it is best to stay focused and listen carefully to what your partner says. Make a mental note of all her likes and dislikes and her preferences. So, the next time you go out on a date with your partner, you have much more confidence in yourself because you are well-aware of some of her tastes and therefore, the next date is bound to be better than the previous one.
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